A lot of people in society have this false notion that life has to be all good. They do not realise that life has bad in it as well. As soon as the smallest thing goes wrong, they have a mental break down. They expect everything to go picture perfect and smoothly. Well I got news for you.
Life does not work that way. Life is about both the good and the bad. You have to learn to accept the bad times in your life. If you do not accept the bad times, if you continue to dwell on them and regret them, all you do is prevent yourself from creating good times in your future. You have to accept the bad times.
If it comforts you, just tell yourself that life would not be complete without the bad times. In life, there will always be the good and the bad.You just have to deal with it.
One way that I have found to be incredibly useful in dealing with the bad times is by focusing on the positives. I look at what I have to be grateful for in the present. I look at the simple things. For instance, I am grateful I live in a generation which has the internet. I am grateful I have a television. I am grateful I live near a library. None of these things are anything extravagant. In fact, they are pretty much things which most people in society take for granted.
Apart from looking for things to be grateful for, I also have activities which I pursue that make me happy. For instance, I enjoy reading. I enjoy journalling. I like going for walks. These are all activities which I pursue not for some grand result, but because they make me happy. They keep me positive and help me appreciate life.
I have learnt that life will always throw bad things your way. In order to stay happy, you have to spend time doing activities that make you happy. Spend a few hours each week doing things that make you happy and make you feel good.
You also need to have a gratitude list. You need to have a list of a few things which you are grateful for in life. Look at this list everyday. It will take less than a minute.
If there is one thing you learn from me, it is that bad things always happen in life. It cannot be helped. But you can minimise the effect of the negative by being grateful for the little things in life, and pursuing activities which make you happy in life. You can reduce the negative emotions you feel by creating positive emotions. That is how you deal with the bad in life. By strengthening the good.
Life is automatic. There will always be good times, and there will always be bad times. This cannot be helped. What you can do is make a conscious effort to create more good emotions in your life. That way as the bad times come, which they inevitably will, you will have some good feelings to help you deal with them.
In summary, the three things I want you to learn are:
1) Accept that there will always be bad times.
2) Keep a gratitude list which you look at every day.
3) Spend time on activities which make you happy.
Follow this advice and take control of your emotions. Create positive emotions.
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